A friend of mine once asked me:
If your brain and your heart clash and conflict, which one would you prefer? The brain, or the heart?
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A logical, a matter-of-fact person would tell us to choose the logical thought of the brain. Feeling from the heart, he could say, is dangerously inaccurate; it can alter the facts, it can even overlook them in order to make justification. Thus, heart is unreliable source of judgement.
A love-idealists, in another hand, would tell us to choose the intuition of the heart instead. Thought from the brain, she could argue, is dangerously deceptive; it is limited in its ability to comprehend the region beyond reasons. Thus, logic is untrustable source of true wisdom…
I would say, choose neither of them.
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In any conflict, taking side yields nothing but the sharpening of the conflict itself. Peace can only be achieved through the resolution between the conflicting parties.
The same goes for the conflict between the heart, the brain–even between all parts of yourself. You can never attain peace by choosing a side of you and making another one an enemy. No matter which side you choose, another side will keep contradicting you. That is why choosing either of them will never give you a good decision for yourself.
To be fully you, you need to end the conflict. You need to bring all conflicting parties of yourself into a single resolution, a single focus. Only then, all parts of you move into one shared direction; so whatever you do, you will be free of self-conflict and self-contradiction. That makes any decision you make a good decision for your whole being.
However, taking the brain and the heart to a resolution is not an easy task. One needs to first resist the temptation to take side. Only then one can act as third party and see both parties in just. Be patient, calm the mind, and watch them with care; eventually, when they fail to take you to their side, they will find their own way to resolution.
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